The Nature of Premature Ejaculation
According to research and estimates, nearly 1 in 3 men experience the embarrassment of premature ejaculation at some point in their lives. It is a common complaint, so if you believe that you may be experiencing a problem, you should know that you are not alone.
The condition is defined by the situation in which a man is unable to control the urge and ejaculates quicker than he had hoped to. Though it happens from time to time with most men, it becomes a cause for concern when it becomes the rule rather than the exception. Once you overcome your embarrassment are able to discuss it, you will find that it is a common condition that is highly treatable.
You Might Suffer from P.E. If…
While it is true that virtually every male suffers from an isolated incident or two, you may have a problem with premature ejaculation if you exhibit certain symptoms. While the most obvious symptom of the condition is when ejaculation happens before both partners are ready for it to happen, it is also interesting to note that it may even occur when you masturbate.
Premature ejaculation is usually classified as either primary or secondary. Primary classification indicates a lifelong condition, while secondary classification indicates an acquired condition.
The symptoms of primary P.E. include climax that almost always occurs within a minute of penetration, being unable to delay ejaculation on all or virtually all penetrations, and the resultant feelings of anxiety, frustration and stress leading to the avoidance of sexual encounters.
Though the symptoms of secondary premature ejaculation are the same, the difference is that the condition is acquired after you have previously experienced satisfying sexual relationships.
What Causes Premature Ejaculation?
While once thought to be purely psychological in nature, it is now known that P.E. can be attributed to many different causes – some being psychological in nature while others are biological. Understanding the factors that contribute to the condition is decidedly more complex than originally thought. This means that the nature of the problem is not always either psychological or biological, but may even be a combination of both.
Many doctors who treat men suffering from P.E. attributed to psychological factors believe that the condition stems from patterns developed during early sexual experiences. For example, if you think back to your earliest sexual experiences, you may have often been in situations where your sexual encounters were rushed or were associated with guilt, which all may contribute to the problem. Other psychological issues may include anxiety and problems within your relationship.
Biological causes that often contribute to P.E. may include abnormal hormone levels, an inflammation or infection of male sexual organs such as the prostate or urethra, thyroid problems, a disruption in the neurotransmitters of the brain, and abnormal reflex of the ejaculatory system. The condition is rarely caused by nervous system damage or trauma.
Are You at Risk?
You may be surprised to learn that certain individuals are predisposed to P.E. Some risk factors include erectile dysfunction, certain medical conditions, and stress. All of these factors can lead to anxiety which is known to be one of the primary causes of premature ejaculation. Certain medications, especially psychotropic drugs which often alter brain chemistry, may also contribute to the problem.
Complications Stemming from Premature Ejaculation
You may not run the risk of serious health problems with P.E., but it can certainly wreak havoc in your personal life. One of the main problems stemming from the condition is the strain that it puts on relationships. Sexual dissatisfaction can lead to stress and anxiety for both parties in the relationship. If the condition is putting a serious cramp in your relationship, you may need to seek professional counseling.
Trying to conceive is may also be difficult if you are suffering from premature ejaculation problems. If you do not receive the proper help, your only hope for conceiving a child may be infertility treatments.
Coping with the Condition
Those who are dealing with premature ejaculation frequently feel ashamed and frustrated. It is often difficult to even discuss with your own physician. However, the condition is highly treatable and more common than you think. It is imperative that you discuss the issue with your doctor if your feel that it is putting a strain on your relationship/s.
Sometimes, coping with the condition is easier when you are not so focused on the sexual side of your relationship. While you are considering different treatment options, you should also consider abstaining from sex for a while and exploring other forms of affection instead. You will be surprised how much stress and anxiety is relieved when there is no pressure to perform sexually. Taking time to really focus on your treatment will ensure that you build a solid foundation for future satisfying sexual relationships.
Treatment Options for Premature Ejaculation
There are a multitude of treatment options for those suffering premature ejaculation. These usually consist of a combination of sex therapy, psychotherapy, and medications. Depending on the underlying cause and severity of your condition, your doctor will design your treatment plan accordingly.
Sexual therapy teaches you techniques to help delay ejaculation during intercourse. You may be encouraged to try masturbating an hour or so before sexual activity, or your doctor may encourage you to abstain from sex from a period of time while focusing on other forms of intimacy in order to help relieve the pressure to perform. You may also be taught certain techniques, such as the squeeze technique, to help you learn how to stop premature ejaculation.
In addition, there are medications and creams that your doctor can prescribe to help control premature ejaculation as well. Certain antidepressants have the side effect of delayed climax and your doctor may consider prescribing them under certain conditions.
Topical creams that numb or dull the sensation of the penis are also useful in delaying ejaculation. These are applied shortly before sex and removed when enough sensation has been dulled to prevent premature ejaculation.
Psychotherapy involves speaking with a counselor about your experiences and relationships. It is often useful in conjunction with drug therapy.